The Proper Way to Explain Hate to a Child

What do you tell a child who might be experiencing hate at the hands of others in this life? Tell your child the meaning of life is loving. It does not matter who you love, or what they look like or even what sex they are. People who hate them are hating something within themselves and trust me it has nothing to do with those of us they hate.

Sometimes they are gay and frightened themselves. Sometimes they are jealous of something we might have. Sometimes they just hate themselves so much that they have to find someone else to project it upon. Same goes for the racists and the homophobes in this world.

We are never going to cure stupid in this life but we can live our best lives in the most amazing ways and trust me when I tell you that is exactly what drives them crazy. Why? Because we just do not care what they think anymore other than you cannot fix stupid. You don’t have time for stupid when you are living authentically and happy.

That is the proper way to explain hate to a child.

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The Sons of America are Watching

I raised two boys to become good men. I raised them to never hit a woman and to stand up for those women they see being abused. I taught them how to respect the women in their lives and that also included their mother who left us years ago. Self respect is about respecting others. I taught them that.
 
These past few weeks have been horrible to watch as the GOP and Donald Trump are teaching a whole new generation of boys it is okay to hurt and degrade women. They are teaching them it is okay to be drunk and belligerent. It is okay to laugh at a helpless girl beneath you as you try to rape her. It is okay to destroy your accuser at all costs in order to hide the truth of their action.

Parents take stock in what your boys are being exposed to because it does matter. Sit down and have a very serious conversation with your boys because they are watching and they are listening to a President who tells them the enemy is the abused and not the abuser or her rapist. He is telling them to fear the accuser. He is telling them it is okay to abuse women and then to make fun of them  and destroy them when they step forward to report they were hurt, harmed, battered or raped.

 
If your sons cannot respect women they will not respect their grandmother, their sisters, their very own mother, and their future spouse. If they cannot respect the women in their lives I can promise you they will never respect themselves as well. Abuse is not okay and they need desperately to be told this over and over. One thing for sure is you do not want Trump or the GOP to coach your sons on how to treat women. We know how that will turn out in the end. Sad times we are living in.

NO MORE SEXUAL ABUSE

Sexual harassment and abuse happens in all walks of life. I have personally distanced myself before from people who beat their significant other and I have also distanced myself quite publicly from someone in entertainment who I know who roofied, abused, and raped a woman. I have kept it quiet for quite some time now because I never felt it was something I should tell because coming from me at this point it was just hearsay which could and would obviously be denied.

Not all sexual abuse goes reported. There is a shame and the fear of not being believed which keeps victims from coming forward. It has always bothered me that I knew of the abusive behavior of these two men and I could never stand up and say it publicly in order to prevent it from happening to someone else. The only thing you can do in the end it to distance yourself from them as much as you can and pray for those who might come in contact with them. And also pray that someday one or more of their victims will stand up and publicly tell their story.

Hopefully all of the attention which has been placed upon this very serious issue lately will cause more victims to stand up and point out their abusers and hopefully the abusers in this world will think twice from harming someone else.