Let me tell you a little story.
One upon a time I bought a house. I loved this house. A week after moving into the house three people were beheaded around the block from it. Two weeks after moving into this house someone broke in while I was asleep in the upstairs bedroom. I eventually sold the house and moved. The next house was even nicer and more wonderful. Down the street from the new house a woman was car jacked. They shot her in the head and left her for dead in the street while stealing the car with her baby still in the backseat. A bar a street over from this house was riddled with bullets from automatic gunfire. A man was on his way to the bank when he was shot in the head in full daylight. So much violence happened in these places. The violence was a daily occurrence. You were constantly worried about your safety and the safety of your family. Where was this city you ask? None other than St. Louis, Missouri in the United States of America.
I have never had to worry for my safety while living here in Mexico. I have always felt safe here and never threatened. Not in the same way I had to worry daily living in St. Louis and I lived in a very affluent neighborhood there. It is not like we were living in a ghetto. We were always hearing gunfire in St. Louis and we were always quite aware of the people getting hurt there in very large numbers. Car jacking, robberies, murder and all sorts of crime were daily problems.There were times when 10-20 would be shot in just one weekend in St. Louis. This was not unusual.
My point is this, there is no crisis at the border people and Mexico is not sending violent people over the border. The violent people in the United States are the citizens which already live in the US cities. It has nothing to do with immigration legal or not. The most violent deaths in the United States last year happened at the hands of far right white extremists who are US citizens. That is the truth of it. Worried about gangs? The gangs run wild in the streets of US cities and they are homegrown gangs not immigrants. That is a fact. The mass shootings in schools in the US are white boys with guns. This is a fact. The meth capital of the United States is the great state of Missouri. Missouri supplies a large amount of the meth to the country. Most drugs actually are not coming from South America. They are coming from Asia and are being brought across the border through Canada. That is also fact.
So stop and understand the United States problems have very little to do with other countries. The biggest enemy to the US is the United States and its citizens itself. So when you hear this racist rhetoric coming from people like Donald Trump ask yourself why they are lying to you and what do they have to gain by doing so? Fear is control people. Your fear is what they use to control you. The boogeyman is not coming from somewhere else. The boogeyman is those telling you to beware. Time to put the blame where it really belongs and it is not some other country or people wanting to come to the US because for some reason they think their lives will be better. The problems are happening inside the US and have very little to do with anyone outside its borders.
Dear Judge Kavanaugh,
You may very likely get confirmed to the Supreme Court. But what you need to understand is that you will never be able to enjoy your appointment because you will live your life in constant fear from when and where the second shoe is going to drop and you will either be forced to resign or impeached. Take a lesson from 1969 Judge Kavanaugh because history is going to repeat itself.
This is not just going to go away. You may be surrounded by those who can protect you at the moment but that is going to change and change very, very soon. You are going to have more enemies than you could ever imagine. You are going to have more people working for your undoing than you could ever think was possible. You Sir may get into the Supreme Court but in the end it is going to be your curse and not your legacy. Karma is a bitch and she is coming for you. Her name is WOMAN and she does not forget.
The Majority of United States Citizens Opposed to YOU
There was a time when I did not say much publicly about politics. That was before it was no longer just political bickering and it became a fight for ALL OF US living the life that we choose and with whom. That was before we were in a fight for the ideals of what the United States is suppose to be about and the country which so many gave their lives to preserve. The greatest generation understood that.
When I first started being vocal with my rage against Trump and the GOP someone said to me, “You really should not take sides since you are an author and you want people to buy your books.” It obviously was a veiled threat. That was the first of many times and each time I would say to them, “I would rather go to my grave penniless than to support hate.”
You know I saw Dolly Parton say something completely the opposite the other day about not saying anything because she did not want to offend anyone. Well that may have been true when you could have peddled this off as a political point of view, but you see Dolly it changed when it became moral. Babies are being put in cages, laws are being passed to legally hate and you are worried someone will not buy a fucking record. You’re right Dolly. Someone will not buy another record or buy another concert ticket of yours because I can guarantee you I fucking won’t.
So for anyone out there that thinks I will stand by and watch the destruction of this country quietly because I will lose book sales, well then you do not know me and you obviously have never truly read one of my books in the first damn place. I don’t care. I will not be quiet and I will not be silent. I just might write a book about it all in the end because that is who I am and many people should write the truth about these dark days.
So for those of you out there who have said, “God bless Dolly for not getting involved,” I have and will continue to block you because Dolly is not doing God’s work by remaining silent while babies are being held in cages. Dolly is not doing God’s work while old men are being beat in the street for being a different color. Dolly is not doing Gods work as another gay couple is beat for holding hands. Dolly is being greedy and Dolly is being a coward. End of story.
You can cheer on court cases which say you do not have to serve us a cake or whatever other discriminatory hate you can come up with. Truth is, if you are one of these discriminating businesses I do not want to give you my money anyway. I have spent years boycotting Chick-fil-a, Hobby Lobby, and Tommy Hilfiger just to name a few due to their associations and practices. Trust me there are enough LGBTQ in the community and allies out here to buy goods and services from that we truly do not need to beg you to take our money. I beg no one to take my money.
Secondly, I do not care if you do not approve of my marriage. I simply do not because it is truly none of your business who I am married to. The highest court in the land can say it is not a legitimate marriage and that would be okay. You know why? Because my marriage is between myself and my husband and no one else. I do not and have never needed a piece of paper to say it is real. Seriously fuck you and your reality.
Third, all of this in the end is going to hurt you a lot more than it is going to hurt us. You see we came of age in a world who hated and scorned us. We grew up watching you proclaiming AIDS was God’s wrath upon us. We grew up with Anita Bryant and the Westboro Baptist Church on the news nightly and more hate than you could ever imagine for just being born this way. So you need to understand there is not a lot you can do to us. We will survive because we have always survived the worst you have been able to throw at us and we are still here. So legislate and get your court rulings because the truth is we are queer and we are here and there is nothing and I mean nothing you can do about it. Now can I get an Amen up in here?
“NO GAYS ALLOWED.” This is a picture of a very real sign with very real anger and hate in its meaning. It is not a made up sign but a very real sign which is today hanging in a store window and in other windows like it across this country. This is where we truly are, at this moment in history.
You know I have tried to be understanding with the Trump voter. Why would our family and friends vote for an agenda that would hate us? It was very hard when I found out I had actual family and friends who voted for this monster of hate and division. I was shocked they would support an agenda so clearly designed to hurt not only LGBTQ people but all sorts of different kinds of people. I would never do that to people who I loved and supported. I would not do that to those whose corner I was truly in. So, I forgave them because there were a lot of things being said at that point which seemed impossible and untrue. Sure, some of it was denial. Those who are supposed to care for us surely would not support hatred against us. For me this thought went against all logic and reason. I was brought up to believe family and friends were to love and support each other. It was with utter shock that I saw people I should have trusted turn their backs upon the well-being of myself and others for who they are, where they came from, and the color of their skin. A lot of water has gone under that bridge. That was then and this now.
NOW, I am way past understanding. If family and friends are still supporting Trump and/or his agenda then it is obvious I cared way too much for those family members and friends because it is now brutally obvious they did not care about me or my family in the way we cared about them. You cannot support hate and then, in return, expect the hated to understand. I don’t understand and I know there are a whole lot more like me who also just do not understand it. How can a person, who you would have trusted your children with, support an agenda that hates you and also has no problem ripping children away from their families and caging them? No exaggeration. These things are happening. And at this point, ALL of the haters just need to move on because we cannot be family or friends anymore. True family and friends do not support hate against each other. And I will not support anyone who supports harming a child. It really is that simple and something I have struggled with over the past couple of years. Hard to believe but this is where things are at. Time to make some hard choices, but I have no problem making those choices because I have had a whole lot of family and friends make those choices for me.
Trump is evil – and those who support him are part of that evil as well. Trump hates my family and those who support him hate my family as well. Why would I open our house and life to those who support hate against us? Why would I trust people around my grandchildren who have no problem caging the children of another? These are people I can no longer trust and they are people I sure no longer need in or around my life. And the sad thing is, these are only a few aspects of his hate agenda that they support. There is really much, much more. THEY have made my choice to move on and away from them quite simple and easy.
Thank you for letting me vent. This truly how I feel. If you support the hate that hates us or others, you then become responsible for that hate because you gave it and are still giving it power. If that is the case, I have no use for that hate or you in my life. I can’t because I cannot support those who support hate. It just does not make sense. So I am proverbially hanging up my own sign and my sign says, “NO HATE ALLOWED.”
I have said from the start of this Trump hate filled nightmare that love will continue to Trump hate and the hate carried in the hearts of his followers.
This year I celebrate Pride in a new city and country which has opened its arms to accept myself and my husband as new residents despite the horrible behavior of the illegitimate President residing in the White House. He was put there by Russian influence and not a majority of the people of the USA. He is not our President and never will be.
Love Trumps hate and it always will. He and his hate will come to an eventual end. We LGBTQ have been here all along and we will be here long after the Orange Hitler is gone.
Stand tall. Stand Proud. And remember Silence=Death and we will not go into any type of future quietly. Not today. Not tomorrow. Raise your voices and be heard! I love you all!