See the Truth

Let me tell you a little story.

One upon a time I bought a house. I loved this house. A week after moving into the house three people were beheaded around the block from it. Two weeks after moving into this house someone broke in while I was asleep in the upstairs bedroom. I eventually sold the house and moved. The next house was even nicer and more wonderful. Down the street from the new house a woman was car jacked. They shot her in the head and left her for dead in the street while stealing the car with her baby still in the backseat. A bar a street over from this house was riddled with bullets from automatic gunfire. A man was on his way to the bank when he was shot in the head in full daylight. So much violence happened in these places. The violence was a daily occurrence. You were constantly worried about your safety and the safety of your family. Where was this city you ask? None other than St. Louis, Missouri in the United States of America.

I have never had to worry for my safety while living here in Mexico. I have always felt safe here and never threatened. Not in the same way I had to worry daily living in St. Louis and I lived in a very affluent neighborhood there. It is not like we were living in a ghetto. We were always hearing gunfire in St. Louis and we were always quite aware of the people getting hurt there in very large numbers. Car jacking, robberies, murder and all sorts of crime were daily problems.There were times when 10-20 would be shot in just one weekend in St. Louis. This was not unusual.

My point is this, there is no crisis at the border people and Mexico is not sending violent people over the border. The violent people in the United States are the citizens which already live in the US cities. It has nothing to do with immigration legal or not. The most violent deaths in the United States last year happened at the hands of far right white extremists who are US citizens. That is the truth of it. Worried about gangs? The gangs run wild in the streets of US cities and they are homegrown gangs not immigrants. That is a fact. The mass shootings in schools in the US are white boys with guns. This is a fact. The meth capital of the United States is the great state of Missouri. Missouri supplies a large amount of the meth to the country. Most drugs actually are not coming from South America. They are coming from Asia and are being brought across the border through Canada. That is also fact.

So stop and understand the United States problems have very little to do with other countries. The biggest enemy to the US is the United States and its citizens itself. So when you hear this racist rhetoric coming from people like Donald Trump ask yourself why they are lying to you and what do they have to gain by doing so? Fear is control people. Your fear is what they use to control you. The boogeyman is not coming from somewhere else. The boogeyman is those telling you to beware. Time to put the blame where it really belongs and it is not some other country or people wanting to come to the US because for some reason they think their lives will be better. The problems are happening inside the US and have very little to do with anyone outside its borders.

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No Spiritual Uniform or Age Required.

Just because I do not have a man bun and I wear polo shirts does not mean I am not and cannot be spiritual in nature and practice. I have seen and experienced things of a more spiritual nature than most posing Bhagwan wannabe’s have seen in their lives and are likely to ever see. I am still on my journey and it is always exciting and you never know where it will take you.

There is a portion of the Millennial generation who believe they have a corner market on spirituality and spiritualism. You are not spiritual because it is the “IN” thing to do. Spirituality has nothing to with the clothes your wear or your hairstyle. Spirit calls to you from your inside and has very little to do with what is on the outside. You have a spiritual calling.

I am blessed to know many “real” spiritual people who I consider true friends. You know who you are because I only am friends with people I admire and respect. If you are a spiritual friend you are one because I believe in you.

The downside is I have also noticed there are a whole lot of spiritual posers out there right now in the world. Do not be fooled by those pretending to be something they are not or incapable of being. In the spiritual world you will see this in many forms. Look for those who are genuine. You will find them. They are there. The key is to for you to be as genuinely spiritual on the inside as you can be in your own life and others like you will attract. There is no spiritual uniform or age required.

The Time is Now

What would your reaction be if I told you that you were going to die in a year? No seriously what if you only had a year to live? What would you do if it was true? Who would you want to see? Where you want to travel? What would you want to do you have not done yet? What is on your bucket list? Do have a list are you living by the seat of your pants?

The fact is you are going to die. We are all going to die. It is the one absolute that without a doubt I can promise you. Every single moment you are inching closer and closer to your final breath, the final beat of your heart, your ultimate demise. The truth is this could be your last year, month, week, day, hour or even minute of living. Someone just died while I was typing this.  So just what in the hell are you waiting for? A bucket list is something you put in the drawer somewhere and forget. A bucket list is for dreaming and quite frankly the clock is ticking and you do not have time for dreams. You need to plan for now and actually do.

Live. Do the things you want now and stop acting like you are going to live forever because you are not. Now is the time to dance in the moonlight. Now is the time to swim naked in the ocean. Now is the time to jump out of a plane or ride in a ballon. Now is the time to do and see everything you possibly can. Do it now because next year is not guaranteed.

This is the one thing I can promise you. You only get one single time limited life. There are no guarantees. Live like you are going to die tomorrow because you never know when your time going to run out. Take this from a guy who has already died once. It can all be gone in an instant.

So live now.

Dear Judge Kavanaugh

Dear Judge Kavanaugh,

You may very likely get confirmed to the Supreme Court. But what you need to understand is that you will never be able to enjoy your appointment because you will live your life in constant fear from when and where the second shoe is going to drop and you will either be forced to resign or impeached. Take a lesson from 1969 Judge Kavanaugh because history is going to repeat itself.

This is not just going to go away. You may be surrounded by those who can protect you at the moment but that is going to change and change very, very soon. You are going to have more enemies than you could ever imagine. You are going to have more people working for your undoing than you could ever think was possible. You Sir may get into the Supreme Court but in the end it is going to be your curse and not your legacy. Karma is a bitch and she is coming for you. Her name is WOMAN and she does not forget.

Sincerely,
The Majority of United States Citizens Opposed to YOU

#nokavanaugh

The Sons of America are Watching

I raised two boys to become good men. I raised them to never hit a woman and to stand up for those women they see being abused. I taught them how to respect the women in their lives and that also included their mother who left us years ago. Self respect is about respecting others. I taught them that.
 
These past few weeks have been horrible to watch as the GOP and Donald Trump are teaching a whole new generation of boys it is okay to hurt and degrade women. They are teaching them it is okay to be drunk and belligerent. It is okay to laugh at a helpless girl beneath you as you try to rape her. It is okay to destroy your accuser at all costs in order to hide the truth of their action.

Parents take stock in what your boys are being exposed to because it does matter. Sit down and have a very serious conversation with your boys because they are watching and they are listening to a President who tells them the enemy is the abused and not the abuser or her rapist. He is telling them to fear the accuser. He is telling them it is okay to abuse women and then to make fun of them  and destroy them when they step forward to report they were hurt, harmed, battered or raped.

 
If your sons cannot respect women they will not respect their grandmother, their sisters, their very own mother, and their future spouse. If they cannot respect the women in their lives I can promise you they will never respect themselves as well. Abuse is not okay and they need desperately to be told this over and over. One thing for sure is you do not want Trump or the GOP to coach your sons on how to treat women. We know how that will turn out in the end. Sad times we are living in.

The Gypsy Life

We made the leap and are now building our new house in  Playa Del Carmen Mexico.

While the build is happening we decided it would be fun to be gypsies. Every month we move to a different neighborhood in Playa to learn anything and everything we can about our new hometown. It has been amazing, fun, tiring and has taught us a lot about our new city and about ourselves.

It sounds romantic to be able to move around as you please, but the truth is we found we ended up craving stability. We also cannot wait to get our things out of storage. There are little things you miss like the insta-pot and air fryer. We actually bought a set of sheets and towels to carry with us so we have a sense of something of our own. The one thing we have learned right away is that we packed way too many clothes. The truth is, you live in shorts, t-shirts and flip flops. I have not put on a pair of jeans or pants in six months. Mostly, I live in swimming suits. I miss my calendar with all of our family in it. I actually cried when my kids gave it to me and I could not even open to look at for days afterward without tearing up. Now I would give anything to open it.  I miss all of our family pictures lining the shelves of our office. I miss a real good office chair. I miss those little things which say hey this is ours. I miss the little robot what sits on my desk or the dinosaur bone my son brought me from a dig. See it is the simple things you end up missing.  I guess that is the biggest lesson we have learned.

We have lived in just about every neighborhood. Our favorite neighborhoods have been the ones which are mainly Mexican and not full of expats. The locals are amazing, sweet, and kind. I love learning about daily life here and all of the quirks that come with it. We have found the more tourist like a place is it loses the cultural aspects which is why you want to live here along with the beauty. Once you lose the culture it becomes just another place to live.

I am sure we will look back at these months and romanticize the gypsy idea once again, but the truth is we are the kind of couple who needs and must plant roots. By Christmas our new house will be done and it will be so wonderful to finally be in a place we can call home. It will be a happy day when our children can come to visit and we can spend some real quality time together. Don’t get me wrong we love it here and this is where we will spend the rest of our lives, but it will be nice when we can live in one place, our place. Until then we will continue feeling like we are just visiting.

What Matters Most

I was sitting here behind the desk doing some work. Nothing important and nothing which required a lot of thought. You know the kind of tasks where you mind can and often does wander? I was thinking about life’s blessings and how the things I thought were going to make me happy were actually the things which in some ways matter the least to me.

As a young man I thought more than anything I wanted to work in the theater. The theater was the place were I was going to find complete fulfillment. Now don’t get me wrong you can find fulfillment in the theater, but you learn very quickly when money comes into play it just kind of sucks the fun and the life right out of it. Theater as a business is a complete different animal than theater for simply the sake of theater and art.

As life continued I thought I would like to do television. In my mind television was where I was going to find the answers to my dreams. I have done a whole lot of television at this point of my life and I can tell you that very little satisfaction ever came from being on a show. Kind of difficult to watch your life being dramatized and portrayed, only in the next moment to be interrupted by tampon and erectile dysfunction commercials.

Then I thought I was going to find everything I needed by doing a film. A movie would bring me everything I wanted in life. I would not only be in film but I would also write for it as well. I was lucky enough to do a few films but in the end I did not find the satisfaction I desired at all in film. In fact. I learned a whole lot about the ugly side of life from working in film and what that ugliness can and will do to people.

So, I became an author and I have to tell you I do get some satisfaction from writing.However, I do not get any satisfaction from working with publishers. Again, once money enters the equation it has a tendency of sucking the life and creativity out of art. Did you know my favorite book I wrote is the only book I self published? Crazy A Prayer for the Dead is by far my favorite of my books. This is why I have made a serious decision to self publish from here on out. Besides, I am married to a perfect artist and editor which helps a whole lot.

I have worked for SyFy, Discovery, CW, Destination America, Warner Brothers, CNN, NBC Universal, Chiller, The Travel Channel and more. I have been featured in newspapers and magazines around the world including Entertainment Weekly, Variety, The New York Post, and The Sun to name just a few. I have done just about every major radio show in the United States, Canada, and the world which has included everything from Man Cow to Coast 2 Coast. I am in the Library of Congress in at least three different places with multiple pieces of work. Are you impressed yet? You really shouldn’t be if you are. Often the things you will be remembered for in life are not the things where you found happiness.

After chasing and achieving all of these dreams in the end do you know where I found satisfaction? I found it in the easiness and simplicity of the love I have for my husband. I found it in all five of our children and the loves of their lives. We get more excited and proud of their accomplishments than anything we ever accomplished on our own. Our three granddaughters who continue to teach make us happier than anything else in life and they continue to teach us about not only acceptance but unconditional love. My mother and father who taught me it was okay to tell people my truth because no matter what you will still have those who will still love you. These are truly the riches found in life and all of that other stuff which might impress some in the end does not matter all of that much.